I just had to change my phone number again..the fear comes because these people have zero boundaries and don’t allow you any so what else will they do? Just this week I’ve had test messages saying how I have some “bad karma” coming to me, how hated I am, etc. etc. and this after my not even talking to this person for eighteen months. This is the second time I’ve had my number changed. He calls old friends of mine, family pretends to be “empathetic” or pitiful and digs info to torment with out of them.

These people are relentless and will go on smear campaigns to ruin you too. It’s just awful to live under something like this. Criminal harrassment, stalking, threats of any kind should be taken very seriously. Maybe there is only physical “violence” one percent of the time but, that does not include the health issues that arise in these situations. I had adrenal failure due to a constant state of fear for two years. Now I’m on meds for that and it’s wrecked havoc with my health in other ways so it is not “just” about the emotional and mental torment. It’s abuse.

Stalking is to obsessively follow another person, irl or on line, or to watch and beset the home or workplace of another person, with a view to having an interaction with them or evoke a response from that other person; or to partake in a series of acts whose purpose is to cause another person to fear you. In this way, it is not dissimilar to bullying except for the sexual component.

In addition, some poster claimed that less than 1% of cases end up as murder. It is far less than that. Less than 1% of cases culminate in an act of actual physical violence against the complainant or anyone known to them.

I.E., Let’s say someone is following you to work or to your home. They hang around across the street, or they are following you when you go grocery shopping or to the gym, etc. Technically, they are not breaking the law UNTIL they start to actually harass you by making nuicance phone calls, ringing your door bell, writing notes to you, leaving unwanted gifts, etc. Now we have social media, where you can be reached/harassed via email, Facebook, or via your website (if you have one). Cyberstalking is a relatively new phenomenon, but once the unwanted attention or even threats etc., starts, then the police absolutely MUST act. But, I believwe that it should never be allowed to go that far before help is available.

Unfortunately, it takes a bit of detective work to prove that you are being stalked. The police officer or detective that is assigned to your case has other cases to deal with, so your own situation might well be down the list of his/her priorities, until your life is threatened.

As a licensed Private Investigator, I have dealt with many stalking cases. It should NEVER be necessary for anyone to have to quit their job or move away simply to avoid a stalker. The cases I have dealt with involves a lot of surveillance. Not all stalkers are stupid, so it pays to be extremely careful when keeping a stalker under surveillance or when following them around. However, evidence can be gathered quickly and presented to the victim’s lawyer or to the police officer who is dealing with your case. By evidence, I mean film & photographic evidence, written reports and a full account of the stalker’s movements. This will save the police a lot of time, and provide them and your lawyer with the ammunition they need to get a conviction – or at least a court order to get the creep out of your life.

Most stalker’s are losers. They are largely uneducated, work in low paying jobs and often live with elderly parents or in dingy rental accommodation. However, there are exceptions to the rule. In 2003, a wealthy Japanese businessman by the name of Masahiko Shizawa was convicted of stalking Britney Spears. He later tired to counter-sue Spears for causing him “emotional distress.” Go figure.

However, not everyone can afford to hire a private investigator, so if I am permitted, I will be happy to post some “tips and hints” on how to deal with stalkers and effectively shake them off.

He started to drive by my house all the time, and constantly calling, trying to offer to do errands for me, anything he could to get near me.

Within a month he started to break in to my home. He slashed my mattress, masturbated on my bed, put my lip gloss on and then kissed my mirrors and windows. He put a butcher knife in my car, and on and on. My drug use went through the roof due to this!

Finally I left the city I was living in and moved 5000 km away. He followed me to my home town, and has continued to stalk me here. I have moved several times, yet he always finds me. Also, now he is drugging me with barbiturates and Crystal Meth, I am guessing in my food and drinks!!! This has been going on for over three years now!!!!!

I do not use drugs anymore, and have been working very hard at recovering from a very serious disability I have from NMS. But the stress from this is making my life very hard to cope with!!! I have reached my limit with this and have decided it has to be stopped now!! I will do all I can to make this stop. I want him to have to deal with the police and go to jail for these terrible crimes he has done against me!

My life today is much different than it was at the time I met him. I now go to church, volunteer at the mission on east hastings (when I am feeling healthy enough), I read a lot now, and walk my dog often. My life is simple, healthy, and I am at recovering from my drug addiction and my disabilities. I rarely drink, and when I do only one or two at the most. I am starting to do part time child care too. I went to the police two times, and was left feeling even worse than I did going in! I received absolutely no help????

If you will help me I would be so grateful!! I have just gotten a nanny pin hole camera in order to catch him on video.